New Year, New You…Not Now

“In winter, I plot and plan. In spring, I move” Henry Rollins In the dead of winter, while trees and plants are dormant, animals are hibernating, and all of nature is in a state of rest, recovery, and reflection, society says, “Happy New Year! New Year, New You! We are encouraged and subtly manipulated toContinue reading “New Year, New You…Not Now”

Observe But Don’t Absorb

“I wonder how much of what weighs me down is not mine to carry” I used to be very confused about who I was and suffered with a very distorted and incorrect self-image. When I began to self-heal and unearth the truth of who I was at the soul level, I realized that I hadContinue reading “Observe But Don’t Absorb”

Our Love is a War

“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up” James Baldwin “It’s going to be hard”. That is what my deceased great grandfather, my closest spirit guide told me when I met this fine ass 6 footContinue reading “Our Love is a War”

Hold On or Let Go?

“There have been times that I’ve had to leave everything I’ve ever known because my heart was in a different place, and although I couldn’t explain it, I trusted myself enough to follow it” Dane Thomas “Love will pass you by if you always choose the safe path” Martin Kipp When we come to aContinue reading “Hold On or Let Go?”

Little Boys Who Pretend to Be Men

“We emotionally manipulated each other until we thought it was love” Warsan Shire He got that Big Dick energy. He is charming and confident. He works hard, dresses well and takes care of his body. And please, let’s not mention that beard. And Lawd, don’t let him have a little gray in it. He knowsContinue reading “Little Boys Who Pretend to Be Men”

She’s Not A “Pick Me”, You Just Can’t Compete

“I must warn you there is a soft juju at work in between my thighs” Upile Chisala A pick me is described as, “A woman who claims or acts as if she is unlike most other women, in order to gain attention from men”. Urban Dictionary defines a “pick me” as a woman, “who goesContinue reading “She’s Not A “Pick Me”, You Just Can’t Compete”

I’m Not As Strong As I Thought…

“Heaven arms with love and laughter those it does not wish to see destroyed” Zora Neale Hurston My entire adult life I’ve taken pride in my strength. My identity was primarily built upon how much pain and suffering I had been able to endure. Alone. I had no idea who I was or where IContinue reading “I’m Not As Strong As I Thought…”

Why I Write

“A word after a word, after a word is power” Margaret Atwood Writing is the alternative to death. Maybe not a physical, literal death. But the unfortunate death of the very core of my being. I have before me two options. Write or die. I write to live. If I didn’t write I would succumbContinue reading “Why I Write”

Expecting Loyalty from People who Betray Themselves

I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt. Maya Angelou One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn is that not everyone is like me. I am unquestionably loyal. WhenContinue reading “Expecting Loyalty from People who Betray Themselves”