The Black Girl’s Guide to Radical Self-Love

“The hardest part is coming to the realization that no one is really going to save you but yourself, that pain is your life’s most valuable teacher and that you will never find happiness until you are completely, absurdly in love with yourself” RM Drake There is a 5- step process to radical self-love. MerriamContinue reading “The Black Girl’s Guide to Radical Self-Love”

Your Success = Your Daily Routine

“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret to your success is found in your daily routine” John C. Maxwell So many people fail to reach their goals. And it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s not because they aren’t capable. It’s not because the desire isn’t there.Continue reading “Your Success = Your Daily Routine”

50 Things the Black Woman Must Say When She Talks to Herself

“The world will knock you down plenty. You don’t need to be doing it to yourself” Elizabeth Scott Everyone is into affirmations these days, even me! I have affirmations on post it notes on my bedroom mirror. Some of them read, “I am enough,” “I trust myself,” and “I am worthy.” But these aren’t Affirmations.Continue reading “50 Things the Black Woman Must Say When She Talks to Herself”

Your Worth & Value Are Not The Same

“Protect your value for all its worth“ Marc Leder You define your worth. Others determine your value. Investments have a cost basis and a market value. The cost basis is what you paid for the investment and generally speaking, remains the same. This is the investment’s intrinsic worth. The market value is what others areContinue reading “Your Worth & Value Are Not The Same”

A First Born Daughter Raised as a Son

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are” Carl Jung “My father told me, “If you were a boy, I wouldn’t have to be so hard on you”. He was right. If I was a boy, he wouldn’t have had to be so hard on me because I would have beenContinue reading “A First Born Daughter Raised as a Son”

Observe But Don’t Absorb

“I wonder how much of what weighs me down is not mine to carry” I used to be very confused about who I was and suffered with a very distorted and incorrect self-image. When I began to self-heal and unearth the truth of who I was at the soul level, I realized that I hadContinue reading “Observe But Don’t Absorb”

She’s Not A “Pick Me”, You Just Can’t Compete

“I must warn you there is a soft juju at work in between my thighs” Upile Chisala A pick me is described as, “A woman who claims or acts as if she is unlike most other women, in order to gain attention from men”. Urban Dictionary defines a “pick me” as a woman, “who goesContinue reading “She’s Not A “Pick Me”, You Just Can’t Compete”

I’m Not As Strong As I Thought…

“Heaven arms with love and laughter those it does not wish to see destroyed” Zora Neale Hurston My entire adult life I’ve taken pride in my strength. My identity was primarily built upon how much pain and suffering I had been able to endure. Alone. I had no idea who I was or where IContinue reading “I’m Not As Strong As I Thought…”

The Garden of Life: Cultivate Your World

“Change your thoughts, and in the twinkling of an eye, all your conditions change. Your world is a world of crystallized ideas, crystallized words. Sooner or later, you reap the fruits of your words and thoughts” Florence Scovel Shinn Your phone rings. It’s an unknown number. Normally, you’d let it go straight to voicemail. ButContinue reading “The Garden of Life: Cultivate Your World”

The Message of a Migraine

“Every feeling, every thought-every emotion we experience sends a message to each cell in our body” Unknown I started having headaches when I was 16. My father used to tell me, “you think too much. That’s why your head hurts. Stop stressing”. That’s a man for you. Simple, rational, and with the enviable ability toContinue reading “The Message of a Migraine”