The One Thing You Must Do Today to Increase Your Self-Esteem

“Self-esteem is the single most significant key to a person’s behavior” John C. Maxwell defines self-esteem as “confidence in one’s own worth or abilities.” On the surface we know how important it is to have high self-esteem. But if we are being honest with ourselves, many of us struggle with developing and sustaining aContinue reading “The One Thing You Must Do Today to Increase Your Self-Esteem”

The 22 Year Repressed Memory of A Shame Entrenched

“The journey of descent consists of encountering your shadow many, many times. Emotions as intense as shame and guilt give themselves up only a bit at a time-and you wouldn’t want more” Deepak Chopra Whenever you are ready to pivot and transcend to a new level in your life, whatever you cannot bring with youContinue reading “The 22 Year Repressed Memory of A Shame Entrenched”

The Black Girl’s Guide to Radical Self-Love

“The hardest part is coming to the realization that no one is really going to save you but yourself, that pain is your life’s most valuable teacher and that you will never find happiness until you are completely, absurdly in love with yourself” RM Drake There is a 5- step process to radical self-love. MerriamContinue reading “The Black Girl’s Guide to Radical Self-Love”

Why You Must Try V-Steaming

“I must warn you, there is soft juju at work in my thighs” Upile Chisala I first tried vaginal steaming in 2017. I came across a random post on IG discussing Vaginal steaming. I had never heard of the practice, but once I learned about the benefits I had to try. Well, I fell headContinue reading “Why You Must Try V-Steaming”

My 3 Golden Rules for Dealing With People

“Before you can change the world around you, you must learn to change the worlds within you” Unknown As I evolve emotionally and energetically, I’ve established my own version of golden rules when dealing with people. As a result, I’m more compassionate toward others, I’ve learned the value of establishing clear boundaries in my relationships,Continue reading “My 3 Golden Rules for Dealing With People”

50 Things the Black Woman Must Say When She Talks to Herself

“The world will knock you down plenty. You don’t need to be doing it to yourself” Elizabeth Scott Everyone is into affirmations these days, even me! I have affirmations on post it notes on my bedroom mirror. Some of them read, “I am enough,” “I trust myself,” and “I am worthy.” But these aren’t Affirmations.Continue reading “50 Things the Black Woman Must Say When She Talks to Herself”

Your Worth & Value Are Not The Same

“Protect your value for all its worth“ Marc Leder You define your worth. Others determine your value. Investments have a cost basis and a market value. The cost basis is what you paid for the investment and generally speaking, remains the same. This is the investment’s intrinsic worth. The market value is what others areContinue reading “Your Worth & Value Are Not The Same”

Karma Isn’t A Bitch, Her Name is Miss Celie…

“The words we use, use us” Unknown The Color Purple is my favorite movie of all time. There are so many scenes that resonate with me, but the one that touches me the most was the Easter dinner scene when Celie gave Mister more than just a piece of her mind! Whew! Sends chills downContinue reading “Karma Isn’t A Bitch, Her Name is Miss Celie…”

New Year, New You…Not Now

“In winter, I plot and plan. In spring, I move” Henry Rollins In the dead of winter, while trees and plants are dormant, animals are hibernating, and all of nature is in a state of rest, recovery, and reflection, society says, “Happy New Year! New Year, New You! We are encouraged and subtly manipulated toContinue reading “New Year, New You…Not Now”

Observe But Don’t Absorb

“I wonder how much of what weighs me down is not mine to carry” I used to be very confused about who I was and suffered with a very distorted and incorrect self-image. When I began to self-heal and unearth the truth of who I was at the soul level, I realized that I hadContinue reading “Observe But Don’t Absorb”