Using Your Pain As Medicine

Using Your Pain As Medicine

“Make medicine from your pain. Be that kind of warrior”

Jaiya John

“Inexplicable sorrows await all of us” … Tragedy, pain, struggle, and loss are both inevitable and unavoidable in this life. You cannot be born, live, and die unscathed from the heart breaking and soul crushing blows that will come knocking at your door. There are some things that we go through that we will never recover from. We will be scarred and marred. We will never be the person we were before that experience changed us. There are some losses that can never be recouped or recovered. There will be some empty spaces that will never be filled.

We often ask, “why me? Why did this have to happen to me?” We declare to the world that we didn’t deserve this! But I have learned that if I chose to focus on the why, and my belief that I didn’t deserve what was happening, I would remain in a space where self-pity, confusion, and bitterness would be my forever companions.

There is another place I have stumbled upon while on my radical self-love and radical self-healing journey. A place where a rare flower called acceptance grows. That flower has invited me to pick it and make use of it. It has beckoned me to take my pain, mix it with its beautiful roots and leaves and make medicine. I hesitantly but courageously did just that and once I did, I began to see my pain as the precious but ugly gift that it is.

I learned that I could choose to allow what has destroyed me to also become the building blocks to create a new life. I could allow each loss to be a stepping- stone to the new love, the new opportunities, and the new chances at happiness that joyously awaited me. I begin to view suffering and sorrow not as something to run from, but to face and ask boldly, “what is it you are trying to teach me”. Cheryl Strayed has said, “Whatever happens to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you because it will”. I have learned that life is not happening to me, but for me. And although I will not be able to go on as I was, I will continue as I now am…

Not everyone will make the journey and stumble across the flower of acceptance. Not everyone will choose to make medicine from their pain. There is no judgement. We are each on a path and perhaps your path does not include such a journey. But if you are being called to embark on this journey, know that you are built for this and you have been given everything you need to succeed.


Kathleen Nicole

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