“Every feeling, every thought-every emotion we experience sends a message to each cell in our body”Unknown
I started having headaches when I was 16. My father used to tell me, “you think too much. That’s why your head hurts. Stop stressing”. That’s a man for you. Simple, rational, and with the enviable ability to compartmentalize. I wish I could just stop thinking so much. It is so much easier said than done. But I was able to manage my stress for awhile and I had fewer headaches.
When I was 29, my headaches came back with a vengeance. Only this time they weren’t headaches. They were migraines. I was afraid I was going to have a stroke. My daughter was almost 2 and I had to get it together because there was no way I was going to leave her without a mother. And I did just that. I started lifting weights, gave up pork and red meat and became obsessed with achieving optimal physical health. And for 8 years, I might have a headache here or there, but no migraines.
But this past year, I began to have migraines again. And these episodes have been the worst I’ve ever experienced. When I got a migraine, I could not function. I would feel nauseous, throw up, I could not stand any light or sound from tv, and all I could do was lay in the bed. I would be out for the count for days. My man would tell me, “You need more potassium and sea moss”. Once again, that’s a man for you. I couldn’t understand it. I am the healthiest I have ever been in my life. My weight is normal, blood pressure normal, cholesterol normal. I average 20 hours of fasting daily. I am hydrated. I exercise, pray, stretch, meditate, and do my breathing exercises. I had to get to the root cause of these migraines because I could not continue having them. If you’ve ever had a migraine, you understand. This is a pain I would not wish on my worst enemy.
“Pain of any kind lets you know that you are out of tune with natural laws”Karol Truman
“Symptoms are not enemies to be destroyed, but sacred messengers who encourage us to take better care of ourselves”Jon Gabriel
Once I started to delve into the source and trigger of my migraines, I realized there was no physical cause. It was emotional. It was mental. This was spiritual. As a Holistic Practitioner, I understand the connection and continuity between the body, mind, spirit, and emotions. The body speaks the mind. Dis-ease or imbalance in one area of our lives will manifest as dis-ease and imbalance in other areas of our lives. It is not uncommon for the dis-ease we experience in our spirit and emotions to manifest as physical dis-ease.
“Our subconscious minds accumulate all our emotions and feelings over a lifetime. They are then expressed mentally, emotionally, and eventually physically in a last desperate need to express the hidden, painful truths”Michael Lincoln
I was able to determine that my migraines were due to repressed anger, guilt and a deep, haunting grief related to unhealed childhood trauma, abuse and abandonment. As physically healthy as I was, my spirit was deeply wounded and ill. As much work as I had done to heal from my past, there was still more work to do. There was still “ick” from my past I had to deal with. My migraines were my spirit’s way of getting my attention to face what I had been running from. I am here to tell you, because I know first -hand, until you deal with what ails you emotionally, you will experience physical dis-ease.
Emotional Causes of Headaches and Migraines
- Deep seeded hurt
- Unresolved childhood sexual trauma
- Inability to express feelings over an issue
- Deep grief
- Abandonment, rejection, and severe criticism from others
- Deep self-criticism
- Feelings of grief and fear
- Resisting the flow of life
- Dislike of being pushed and controlled
- Inability to face an issue
The first step is to acknowledge the truth of what you are truly feeling. This requires a deep level of self-honesty and introspection. You can’t heal what you are unwilling to deal with. Just because you buried it, doesn’t mean its dead. This is the hardest part. We tell ourselves, “I’m over it. It doesn’t bother me. It wasn’t that bad. I’m fine. I’m successful. I’m doing better than most”. Or we protect the feelings of others. We subconsciously absorb their shame, and we blame ourselves. We protect the family name and reputation. We repress, suppress, and push it down. But it will bubble to the surface. Your pain is like a child saying, “watch this, look at me”. Until you are willing to own your true feelings, you will continue to suffer.
The next step is to begin the journey of resolving what has been repressed and heal what has been ailing you. I called it a journey for a reason. There is no one-time, quick fix solution. It is an ongoing process. When one level is resolved, a deeper level is exposed for healing. Honestly, I don’t know if you ever arrive at complete and total healing. But it does get easier with time. You may seek counseling or the aid of an energy healer. Your spirit guides and intuition will lead you to whoever is destined to help you along the way. You will be led to read certain books, watch certain youtube videos and engage in specific healing rituals. I must warn you, this will be the most dauting and exhausting journey you embark on. But the pain of growth is easier to shoulder than the pain of staying the same. Your migraine has a message. Are you ready to listen…
“The symptoms in our body are carriers of information, of a message about the state of our soul”Bernie Siegel