“I am trying to remember you and let you go at the same time”Nayyirah Waheed
In my first book of poetry, A Sojourn Back Home, I wrote a poem titled, “Top Dolla Hoe”. It goes like a little something like this:
I’ve been fucked a thousand times
In a thousand ways
By the same man
With a different face
I was never loved
A thousand times
A thousand ways
Once you have sex with a man, his energetic imprint remains in the cellular memory of your womb. For a maximum of seven years. Whether you are physically or relationally with him or not, he is apart of you. If a man releases his sperm inside of you, his DNA becomes a part of your DNA. The essence of who you are encompasses the men you have allowed between your thighs.
All of who he is; physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and energetically is who you are. Depending on how many lovers you’ve had or how deeply a man has imprinted his essence into you, who YOU truly are can be buried, inaccessible, or lost by the men holding on to your womb. Not only do these energetic cords prevent you from connecting to your higher self, your inherent truth, and the true soul of your womb being, you will be unable to fully connect with and be in true relationship with a new lover.
It is important to clear, remove and release the energetic cords, attachments, and imprints of all the men you are no longer connected to. This will allow you to reactivate and reclaim the dormant DNA of your divine feminine essence and be in a loving, healthy relationship with the divine masculine man of your dreams.
Steps to remove past lovers from your womb
- Make a list of all the men you’ve slept with over the past 7 years
- Find a quiet place to sit or lay. Place your hands on your womb
- Take 3 deep breaths, in through the nose, out through the mouth, relaxing more with each breath.
- Visualize the first man on your list. Where do you feel an energetic pull? The heart? Womb? Vagina?
- Visualize the cord or his hands connecting to that spot.
- Visualize the cord being cut. Visualize his hands being removed
- Visualize him walking away or floating away from the area he triggered
- Feel yourself being covered with a white light coming in through the crown of your head, cleansing you.
- Repeat for every man on the list
- Repeat daily or weekly as needed until all energies have been removed
No one has the right to overstay their welcome in your womb. You have the right to evict every unwanted energy and proclaim, NO VACANCY. It is time to reclaim our wombs and discover the hidden truth of who we are, who we’ve always been and who we’re fighting to be.