“The world class purposely ignores the small thinking, ego-based personality”Steve Siebold
I’ve consistently made the mistake of giving an ear to, and heeding the advice of people who ultimately didn’t have a clue. I took relationship advice from single women. I took business advice from people who never ran a business. I took financial advice from people who lived paycheck to paycheck and were in debt. I took health and exercise advice from people who were overweight and didn’t have the physique I desired. I took spiritual advice from religious people who had no peace or joy.
There’s the saying that everyone is your teacher. And that you can learn from the mistakes of others. These statements have merit, but should never be taken out of context. If you are striving to be the best at something, look for experts in that field and follow their advice and teachings. It’s easy for just about anyone to give high-level, general advice but not produce specific results. I now look for those who have a proven track record in their field. If I’m going to listen to you, you’ve got to have receipts.
In an attempt to honor everyone’s voice and give credence to the belief that we all have something to contribute, I’ve made the big mistake of listening to people I should have silenced. Now I understand that I can acknowledge someone’s right to have an opinion without deeming their opinion to be worth listening to. One of my favorite quotes is, “the price of an opinion is evidence”. I look for those who have paid the price for their opinion. I look for the evidence.
I want to be a successful entrepreneur. That means I seek advice from successful entrepreneurs, not from those who think they have an idea of what it takes to run a successful business. I want to have a healthy, sustainable marriage. That means I follow the example of women who display powerful feminine energy and have healthy relationships, not perpetually single and lonely women who can’t get a man. I want to have the body of my dreams. That means I follow IG fitness freaks who devote massive amounts of time to building the body of their dreams instead of the pudgy individuals who claim you can get a better body in 30 minutes and a waist trainer.
I have this insane desire to be the woman I’ve always dreamed of. The woman who won’t leave me alone. The woman who keeps convincing me that if I just push a bit more, I can meet her face to face. In order for this to happen, I must completely ignore the opinions, musings, and advice of people who are comfortable living average, mediocre lives. I can’t listen to everyone, because everyone is not where I desire to be.
Listen to those who are where you want to be. Heed the advice of those who have accomplished what you desire to accomplish. Ignore everyone else. Respectfully of course. You are not like everyone, so you cannot listen to everyone.