“Heavy hearts, like heavy clouds in the sky are best relieved by the letting of a little water”Antoine Rivarol
I pulled up to work and sat there a few minutes. I said to myself, “I need a good cry”. Nothing is wrong. In fact, I am in a wonderful transition from my old life to the new life that has been waiting for me. I have so much to thank God for. But my heart is still heavy. I mourn for all of my dearly departed loved ones. I mourn for the parts of myself that I’ve had to release because they no longer serve me. I think of all those I love who are currently suffering or going through a storm. My heart is heavy because of all that is going on in the world. And I know that I just need a good cry. A cry for you. A cry for me. A cry for my people. A cry for the world.
“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”Adlai Stevenson
My tears are not an indication of weakness or hopelessness. They are evidence of trauma and triumph, of fear and faith, of love and countless losses. These tears aren’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of life. I cry because I’m still here. I cry because there is still hope. I cry because there is love. I cry because there is a song in my heart. The sojourn of the flawed and broken. I cry because I have nothing left, but yet so much yet to give. My tears symbolize that it’s not over yet. Even in the midst of my emptiness there is enough. Enough life left to live.
We admire the strength people exert to hold on, but we never commend people for exerting the strength it takes to let go. There’s nothing noble about holding your tears in. The courage is in letting them fall freely. Cry alone if you need to. Cry with someone if you need to. Just cry! Scream! Moan! There’s power in laying that burden down. Getting it all out. Emptying yourself until there’s nothing left.
“Crying is one of the highest devotional songs. One who knows crying knows spiritual practice. If you can cry with a pure heart, nothing else compares to such a prayer”Unknown
When you cry, your stress levels are reduced. Pip Waller, author of Holistic Anatomy explains, “Tears provide the only route for us to excrete stress hormones whole, without the liver having first metabolized them. So, when we are stressed the chemical content of our tears change…crying is the cure for being hurt”. The truth is, if we aren’t crying enough and the stress we experience continues, it can damage the body in the form of high blood pressure, muscle tension, digestive problems, infertility, impotence and issues with menstruation and menopause.
The next time your body prompts you to cry, don’t try to hold the tears back. Let your power fall like rain from the sky. The power to heal, be free, and go forward with a strong mind, body, and soul.
Kathleen Nicole a Radical Self-Healer. She is a Published Author of six books, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, Nutrition and Wellness Consultant, Vaginal Steam Facilitator, Yin Yoga Instructor, Death & Mourning Doula, and Intermittent Fasting Guru. She garners her power by tapping into her melanin rich DNA database overflowing with the knowledge and wisdom of the medicine men and women, the healers, and the warriors she lovingly calls ancestors.
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